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Parents.....Be Parents

Posted September 5, 2008 at 12:31 PM by Snake Eye

Today marks the end of three and a half weeks of my so-called "teaching". Of the major dilemma facing me still, is getting this kids to enjoy reading. But an underlaying cause stills pops to the forefront each and every single day: Their parents.

We had our back-to-school night last week and no big surprise I had a whopping 6 parents show the entire evening. It seems to be a pattern with the type of students I have had over the last 13 years. School is the babysitter.

Now the title I used is basically simple, parents need to be parents and not their kids friend. My students think I am an absolute monster for the way I treat my own personal kids. What, just because they cannot watch TV or play video games during the week, makes me a monster? It might be difficult for a tech guy to admit that there are distractions when it come to those things, but they are big ones. They too are the babysitters.

My kids can play games and watch TV, but only if they have earned their time. Homework completed each night will net them 15 minutes of game time. Reading for their alloted time also another 15. Doing a chore without being asked another 15. When it is all said and done, they can earn up to 4 hours for the weekend.

The horrified faces of my students are priceless. These are the same ones that are on the computer for 6+ hours a night or watching the 5th rerun of a show or playing a video game for hours. To quote them: "It would suck having you as a dad." And then I stick it to them: "Why because I hold my kids at a higher standard? Because I want them to be successful?"

I only speak the truth to them. I have to many students that think sex, drugs, and gangs are the cool. I have already had several former students in jail, knocked up, and dead.

So parents.....be parents. Set the rules, stand by the rules, never give in, and never give up. Yeah, my own kids may not like me at times, but they know I love them. Because I tell them each and every single day.

Plus if they don't get their hugs and kisses before I leave for work, you can bet I will hear about it, from them.
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  1. Old Comment
    You are my American hero.
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    Posted September 5, 2008 at 09:13 PM by Crimson Crimson is offline
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    american hero? His statements run contrary to everything I'v been taught, children are wards of the state, our responsability as aprents lie only in making sure that others are doing the job that we as responsable adults can not be bothered to do for fear of it affecting our personal goals and asperations.

    next thing you now you'll be telling me the parent should make sure the child isn't exposed to bad influences on telivision, or games, orthe internet, instead of those providing it. its utter poppycock.
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    Posted September 5, 2008 at 09:39 PM by Dimnersti Dimnersti is offline
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    Here's how mean I am to my son- we don't even have TV. Well, we do have A TV, but no cable, and where we live that means you can get bad reception of one channel that mostly carries news and Oprah. All you can really do with it is watch DVDs.

    There are a few good shows on these days, but mostly TV is just a way to painlessly kill time until you're ready to stuff a coffin.

    But I think the real tragedy of your story is that these kid's parents aren't interested in their education, which is one of the biggest predictors of how good an education they'll get. If the parents don't give a darn, how are the kids supposed to figure out that they need to give a darn?
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    Posted September 6, 2008 at 10:04 AM by Lindy Ravenswing Lindy Ravenswing is offline
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    It is extreme, if your a kid. If your not a kid looking at big picture then no. I don't think restrictions really make kids, kid A does better because he has hours x of blank, kid B does better because they have no hours of x. I do think there are bad habits though and limiting them, in any form, is good, weather that's drinking, games, tv, sex, whatever.

    I think the bigger question is why a kid is on a computer game for 6+ hours? Probably because they either have no friends, no social life, or are dealing with problems at home. Sure parents do have to be parents, but I worked with a charity a fair bit and knew a handful of children who only found real shelter and support at a school.

    Parents should be better, no doubt about it, but sometimes you just have to step up and help people and not pass the buck on so to speak.

    On a bright side there are a lot more after school programs related to literature, art, and theatre these days then when I was in school, when the only thing you had was football.
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    Posted September 7, 2008 at 01:08 AM by Wilhelm Rochester Wilhelm Rochester is offline
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    Lol. I've been married to my computer since I was 12 and I made all A's and B's in school, was top of my class, and graduated with honors... so for the record, I don't think having distractions is necessarily bad. Granted, I've always been a quick study and able to retain information without even really trying (and that wasn't meant to sound arrogant... just the truth)...

    But I do agree that more parents need to take an interest in their child's education. But in the parents defense, sometimes they don't know when things like that are going on... such as parent-teacher conferences that aren't mandatory, open house nights, etc. Heck when I was in school I never told my mom when those things were going on... not because I didn't want her to talk to my teachers (I was a teacher's pet since grade school lol) but just because I didn't want to have to go back to school after hours and lounge around with her for hours on end. Yeah, I'm lazy haha.

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    I think the bigger question is why a kid is on a computer game for 6+ hours? Probably because they either have no friends, no social life, or are dealing with problems at home. Sure parents do have to be parents, but I worked with a charity a fair bit and knew a handful of children who only found real shelter and support at a school.
    From experience, I use video games, books, Aelyria, etc. to escape from my personal problems... so maybe instead of frowning at children for immersing themselves in such things, people should be asking why they are doing so? Enh, my two cents.
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    Posted September 7, 2008 at 02:13 AM by Amaranth Amaranth is offline
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    I rather like your idea of them doing work they get this amount of time, but sadly I am not having kids anytime nor if at all. But I do agree with you on all areas.
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    Posted September 18, 2008 at 01:59 PM by Saka Rosedl Saka Rosedl is offline
 

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